I’m back… but in a new season

Posted by on Oct 25, 2019 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Nearly two years ago Dee and I embarked on a new call, a new place, and a new adventure. We were convinced that our Lord had something in mind for us that was way outside the box for us. So, we packed up and left Gig Harbor (although we haven’t left Gig Harbor, as we have kept our home and Dee is still deeply invested in her Healing Reins barn and her two 4-legged beauties!) to move to Newport Beach, CA as I serve as the lead pastor at St....

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You want to understand Millennials?

Posted by on May 27, 2016 in Family, Society/Culture, technology | 0 comments

You want to understand Millennials? Two articles jumped out at me this week. One by Farhad Manjoo, “Corporate America Chases the Mythical Millennial,” and the other by David Brooks, “Inside Student Radicalism.” Brooks compared the incessant rush for “excellence” as rewarding the “meritocracy,” where college students are “stressed and exhausted,” with “a moral life that is more vehement, more strenuous than anything being offered by their...

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Technology is a tool, not a right: Kids, Christmas, and Smartphones

Posted by on Dec 11, 2015 in Family, Society/Culture, technology, Teens | 0 comments

  Perhaps the most often asked question by parents when I do a Parenteen seminar is “What about technology?” Behind this question is the universal fear parents feel with the encroaching and pervasive nature of technological opportunities. Regardless if the presenting issue concerns too much time on the phone, recent articles on sexting, or the lack of willingness (or even ability) to communicate in complete sentences, issues almost always...

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The Future may be talking, but who is listening?

Posted by on May 20, 2015 in Family, Society/Culture, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Thomas L. Friedman wrote today in the NYTimes: “Our presidential candidates may not be interested in talking seriously about the future yet, but the future will be interested in talking to them.” Which led me to reflect on what Big Jake, aka John Wayne, might say, don’t be “short on ears and long on mouth.” Listening. That rarely acknowledged but oh-so-crucial second half of communication. As an atomized, “Who’s watching out for me?” culture,...

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Study Guide for “When Kids Hurt”

Posted by on Apr 8, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

For anyone wishing to offer a 4-week training for volunteers, parents or anyone else interested in understanding kids, Alaina Kleinbeck has done a great job at providing a 4-week study guide for the “What do I do now” version of Hurt 2.0, called When Kids Hurt (co-authored with Steve Rabey, Baker, 2009). Click on link to get When Kids Hurt .  To receive the 4-week free downloadable study guide/book club for When Kids Hurt, go to:...

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Who is my brother, my sister, my child?

Posted by on May 20, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

According to Jesus, every person is his brother or his sister, and how they are treated matters to him. “Whatever you did for the least of these my brothers and sisters you did for me.” (Mt 25:40) The implications of this are staggering. Consider the parent, the one who is healthy enough to know that to love is to sacrifice, to worry, to serve, to pray. Yes, boundaries and training and even discipline, carefully and appropriately applied are...

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Father-Daughter Dances: Is there a better way?

Posted by on Mar 5, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Have you met Sarah? She’s 15, bright, outgoing, warm and pretty. I met her at a conference in the southeast last year. Sarah is active in church, she has an inviting presence, plays guitar, loves drama (the stage kind), and is on the jayvee volleyball team. A nice, gracious, fun kid. Hard not to like Sarah. I was sitting in the foyer with a group from her town, both guys and girls, when the subject of the upcoming church-sponsored...

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David Brooks gets it: Our young need more than education, they need us

Posted by on Jan 24, 2014 in Society/Culture, Teens | 0 comments

In today’s NYTimes, David Brooks opined that the President needs to advocate for a much broader stroke to addressing the needs of our broken children and young adults (http://nyti.ms/1eHNGLX). In October, 2013, I posted a blog saying that Brooks had been right at the time when he advocated for more attention to needy pre-school kids, but he had it only half right (see “Ignoring the Elephant in Preschool Education” http://tinyurl.com/krpylom)....

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“He’s not a liar. He’s a kid”

Posted by on Oct 14, 2013 in Family | 0 comments

In the interview with Katie Couric, Brian Te’o didn’t set out to make a distinction that would embolden a national conversation. He was defending his son. Lance Armstrong. Manti Te’o. Beyoncé? Three stars. All accused, in one way or another, of perpetuating a lie, or at least a deception. The news has been all over it, and reaction has been unrelenting. From USA Today and the New York Times to CNN and ESPN, pundits and “experts” weigh in....

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